Do you clash with your child? Do you find they are constantly ignoring what you say? Do you struggle to understand their actions? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you and your child are likely struggling with ineffective communication.
This may sound silly. After all, you are very clear when giving your child instructions and you don’t make unreasonable demands. However, the trouble is usually not that you don’t speak to your child, but rather that you don’t always listen and respond empathetically.
Let’s break this down a bit.
Children are People
You see, children are people just like you and me. They have thoughts and feelings, and they want to be heard. All too often however, they are pushed to the side, punished for expressing themselves in the only ways they know how, and not taught better ways to communicate their emotions.
As the child grows older, they become more and more frustrated with their inability to communicate. Different children develop different ways of coping, but many of these methods will make the child appear to be naughty or out of line.
How this Affects Homeschooling
Obviously, this cycle is never a good thing to have going on in your family. However, because homeschooling families spend so much more time with their children, they tend to notice the effects much more acutely.
In fact, parent/child relationships that suffer from poor communication can make schooling almost impossible. A child who doesn’t receive emotional validation is more likely to resist school assignments. A student who isn’t listened to may not want to listen to anyone else.
Obviously, this leads to a completely unproductive school schedule. Additionally, because such behavior usually results in punishment and negative reaction from their parent(s), the student may begin to associate learning with punishment, leading them to believe they hate learning.
What Can You Do?
Obviously, no parent wants their child to avoid learning. After all, learning new things is what makes life interesting and helps propel us forward. Therefore, avoiding this situation is key, especially for homeschooling parents who are striving to instill a love of learning in their children.
So what can you do? Well, the first step is to listen to your child. Validate their feelings, use their ideas, and include their interests in their schooling. Instead of demanding certain things of your child, try discussing why you’d like certain things done and why other things are necessary. Giving the child a “why” will likely motivate them to get things done. These simple changes in the way you assign schoolwork to your child could make a world of difference.
Of course, this just barely scratches the surface of what poor communication can mean for your family and how you can work to turn things around. Therefore, if you and your child are really struggling in this area, you may want to sign up for an Empathetic Communication class here at The Loop.
This class helps people learn ideal ways to communicate and show empathy in all of their relationships. It’s perfect for any adult who feels they are experiencing a communication barrier with anyone they spend time with.
To enroll, contact us today!